| Whatever we're facing right now, we're duped by | | | | responsibilities that command our attention to things |
| remaining in the immediate past. We're best to leave | | | | where we cannot leave well enough alone. |
| the matter or resolve to do something, and then move | | | | The problem we have is when we continue to roll the |
| on, until it comes time perhaps to do the thing we | | | | matters around in our minds. Our minds sometimes |
| decided to do. | | | | take a little information, embellishing it too many times, |
| This above is the clinical way of the fully developed | | | | and we'll often take matters in the wrong direction, |
| adult from the emotionally-intelligent viewpoint. There is | | | | having 'talked ourselves' into a quandary. |
| no good stewing about things. | | | | And there are many wrong directions we can take; |
| There are two good and healthy options open to us in | | | | especially as we stew over things. Finally, we can |
| our resolving of concerning matters. | | | | resolve to fix a problem - a problem our own minds |
| 1. Just Move On | | | | created - that's not even there. |
| By far and away most of the things that happen 'to' us | | | | We consider the facts of the issue and then we |
| in life can be passed over and effectively ignored. | | | | decide, as clinically as we can. Then we might simply |
| Whether people set out to offend us or we simply | | | | review the decision right before we have to enact it. |
| take offence is often irrelevant, especially from the | | | | Otherwise we don't fret. |
| longer term perspective. | | | | Just Keep Moving Forward |
| There is little to be gained and far more to be lost in | | | | The immensity of the wisdom in this cannot ever be |
| chasing the wind of conflict. There is a difference | | | | overestimated. The most majestic power of God it is |
| between feeling better and keeping others to account. | | | | to keep moving forward, not being stuck in the |
| Challenging people will rarely help us feel better about | | | | moments of our hurts, disappointments and |
| things, and depending on how we handle our conflicts | | | | discouragements. |
| we can easily make things worse for ourselves. | | | | Smiling our troubles away in not continually looking over |
| Just moving on and focussing forward and not on the | | | | our shoulders does take some discipline of self-control, |
| transgression or hurt is not a denial - it's often an | | | | but the benefits are very much worth it. |
| elevated choice to look on better things. | | | | Keep moving forward. |
| 2. Resolving to Do Something - When the Matter's | | | | © 2010 S. J. Wickham. |
| Too Important to Leave 'As Is' | | | | I wrote an article titled Keep Moving Forward in 2007 |
| So, perhaps we came across the sort of problem that | | | | and this is why this article is titled as a 'revisit' of the |
| just had to be met front-on. After all, many of us have | | | | topic. |