Building Instant Rapport

Every investor has heard how important it is to buildfeel confident that you can help them. No, they do not
rapport with distressed homeowners. What we neverneed to see that you have become a millionaire from
hear about is how to do it. What is it about someonedistressed properties. You never want them to
that makes us instantly like or dislike them? We do notwonder if you have taken advantage of others and
really know what it is about that person; we just knowthat is why you have so much stuff. People are leery
it is something.to begin with; do not feed in to it.
Rapport is developed in the subconscious. We cannot- Be certain you are speaking to the right person.
quite pinpoint it, but there is something about thatInstead of blurting out why you are there, ask if this is
person that seems familiar and makes us feelMrs. or Mr. so and so first. Once you are sure, continue
comfortable around them.with your conversation.
So...how do you establish rapport? Let's start with a- Never use the "f" word ... foreclosure. State that you
few basic tips. When I am looking for distressedwere doing some research and see that they have a
homeowners, I like to knock on doors. It is the fastest"pending problem with their property" and that you
way to get deals. If I knock on twenty doors over awould like to help them. This puts the blame on the
weekend, I will have several contracts by Sundayproperty, not the person.
afternoon. I would rather spend a day or two gettingLet's look at establishing rapport over the phone.
multiple deals instead of waiting for my phone to ring- Speak at the same rate of speech as the
hoping for just one deal.homeowners. For example, if the person who
Here are some dos and don'ts when you knock onanswers the phone speaks slowly, do the same. If
doors or meet a homeowner in person:they speak fast, do the same. People who speak fast
- Do not wear sunglasses. Homeowners cannot seethink that people who speak slowly are stupid.
your eyes and subconsciously you seem suspicious.Likewise, people who speak slowly think that fast
- Never wear a hat, like a baseball cap. Again,talkers are slick and untrustworthy. Is it true? No, it is a
homeowners cannot see your eyes and aresubconscious thought that most people are not aware
suspicious.of. When you follow the homeowners' rate of speech,
- Always have a clipboard in your hands so that bothyou seem familiar to them and, again, they like you
of your hands are visible. If you tend to stand with yourwithout knowing why.
hands in your pocket or behind you, the homeowners- Ask them to share a little about their current situation
will think you have a gun and are going to rob or killand listen with respect and empathy. Once you feel
them and will not hear what you are saying.that they have properly vented, begin to ask details
- Never wear cologne or perfume. I know this oneabout their situation. Homeowners want to tell you
seems strange, but let's look at it from thewhat happened because they do not want you to
homeowners' point of view. You're a guy and youthink that they are losers. No one grows up with the
wear Eternity. You show up at the door and a womangoal of being in foreclosure. Something in their lives
answers. Her husband used to wear Eternity. He ranchanged and they want to be certain you know what
off with another woman and she still hates him for it.it is.
You are wearing what the ex-husband used to wear- Make an appointment to view the property then call
and subconsciously, you remind her of him. She nowback to confirm the appointment. During the second
dislikes you without knowing why. The same goes forphone call, ask more questions. Be certain that
the girls, too. You do not want to remind theeveryone on the deed is home and willing to put a deal
homeowners of someone they now dislike.together.
- Be aware of what color your clothing is. Green- When on the phone, listen for the objections you are
promotes trust, while red promotes dominance. I likegoing to get when you meet in person. For example,
warm colors like green, blue, pink, or brown. Stay away"we don't have to sign a deed, do we?" If they ask
from reds and blacks. Dress casual, but professional ...questions on the phone, be ready to handle them in
no suits. Also, lose the jewelry. Homeowners losingperson.
their home do not need to see that you own a Rolex.So, you see folks, it is not that difficult to establish
- Be aware of what you are driving. If you drive arapport. Take the time to be approachable, honest, and
Rolls Royce, you may want to consider getting atrustworthy and business will follow. Better yet ... just
middle-of-the-road car for meeting homeowners. Yes,be that way naturally and you will reap what you sow.
homeowners need to see that you are successful to